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SAFE VISITATION ACCOUNTING FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN VISITATION PLANNING AND PROVISION Tracee Parker June 2015
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Introductions • My background: Advocacy, mediation, supervised visitation, perpetrator treatment, clinical psychology, and research • Who are you? • What’s your role? • One issue that comes to mind when you think about this topic
Today’s Agenda • Introductions • Overview of DV & Coercive Control • The reality of DV • Visitation • Spectrum of access, accounting for safety • Mitigating the Impact of DV • Crafting helpful agreements, referrals • Consulting & Problem Solving • Theory versus practice
Behavioral Definition of DV • Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior that at one intimate partner or spouse exerts over another as a means of control and may include physical and sexual violence, coercion, threats, intimidation, isolation, and emotional, sexual or economic abuse. • Commonly referred to as Battering, Intimate Partner Violence, Spouse Abuse
Conflicting Perspectives • Family Violence Perspective (it’s caused) • Mutual, incidental, “high conflict” • Pathological or substance abuse • Current Perspective (it’s a choice) • Power and control • Ongoing, tactical THESE ARE VERY DIFFERENT LENSES
My Biases: • Feminist Perspective: DV is grounded in patriarchy, sexism, historical context • Battering: Dominance, coercion, partner specific, instills fear, impacts mental health • No Gender Symmetry in Battering: Both men and women use violence but intent and impact differ greatly
Batterer Behaviors • Entitlement – I do because I can! • Physical, Sexual, Economic, Privilege • Psychological • Verbal, Humiliation, Crazymaking • Use of Allies • Kids, Family, Friends • Minimize, Deny, Lie • Externalize, Blame
Battered Woman Syndrome • Not applicable to most survivors • Cycle of Violence not true for many
Coercive Control • Withholding of autonomy / liberty • Individualized tactics are hard to describe or demonstrate impact • Chronic versus acute • Socially constructed inability to escape “A strategic course of self-interested behavior designed to secure and expand gender-based privilege…” Stark, 2007
Eight Domains of Control • Personal activities / appearance • Support / social life / family • Household • Work / economic / resources • Health • Intimate relationship • Legal • Immigration
Example • Demand = Physical appearance • Threat = Infidelity, humiliation, violence • Compliance = Maintaining acceptable weight • Surveillance = Monitoring food & exercise • Enforcement = Comparison • Response = Apology or retaliation
Remember… • Social Ecology – Context is EVERYTHING! • Who / what else is involved? • History • Resources • Cultural constraints • Resistance and Compliance – BOTH increase as control increases
Exploitation of Vulnerabilities • Instills FEAR of consequences • Not necessarily physical • Psychological blackmail • Crossing of boundaries • Physical • Emotional • Social
Vulnerabilities Exercise • How might this be used by someone who wants to control, harm, or undermine you? • What are some ways you might try to manage the potential for harm? It’s even more complex within family context!
Impact of Battering on Survivors • Crazymaking • Coping Strategies • Hypervigilance • Counter Intuitive Behaviors Reminder: There are no psychological tests available that can determine if someone is a batterer or a victim!
Survivor Behaviors • Resistance / Violence • Anger / Hostility • Exhaustion • Silence • Surrender • Escape • Depression • Substance Abuse • Alignment / Protection • Return
Child Behaviors • Shy, Withdrawn • Aggression / Anger • ADHD*** • Over Achiever • Mimicking Battering • Regression • Delayed Development • Alignment
Parenting & DV • Survivor’s behavior may seem counter intuitive • Staying / Returning • Physical discipline • Partner abuse is viewed apart from parenting • Battering IS A PARENTING CHOICE • Inappropriate expectations by batterer of child’s developmental stage
Post-Separation Battering • Lethality • Stalking • Child Abduction • Use of Systems & Services • DV Treatment Programs • Mental Health Therapists • Substance Abuse Counselors • Immigration Agencies • Victims Advocates • Social and Professional Networks • CASA, FCS, GALs • Child Protective Services • Supervised Visitation
For Example… • Tom accidentally shows up for his visit while Joey is visiting with Nancy. • Tom brings a Birthday card to the visit for Joey to sign and give to his mother Nancy at their next visit. The front of the card is a photo from the perspective of someone obviously about to go down the steep slope of a roller coaster with a pre-printed greeting inside that says, “No telling what surprises you’re in for on your birthday!” • Tom brings a birthday gift for Joey. It’s a remote control boat. • Joey asks his mother Nancy for the name of the place where she works again.
DV is Insidious [in-sid-ee-uh s] 1. a: awaiting a chance to entrap: treacherous b: harmful but enticing: seductive (insidious drugs) 2. a: having a gradual and cumulative effect: subtle (the insidious pressures of modern life) b: of a disease: developing so gradually as to be well established before becoming apparent Merriam-Webster
The Continuum of Access • Unsupervised • Supervised exchanges (friend, family, professional) • Monitored visits (friend, family, professional) • Supervised visits (friend, family, professional) • No access
Considerations for Selecting an Option • Why might this be preferred? • Who will do it and how? • Safety planning: • Where, when, how exchanges or visits take place • Compliance issues • Documenting problems • Child development • Safety planning with kids
Supervised Visits • Why? • Need to remind EVERYBODY of the reason for supervision • EQUAL REGARD FOR SAFETY OF ADULT AND CHILD! • Who? • Friends, family members professionals • Collusion is always a possibility!
Supervised Visits, (cont…) • Where? • Inside, outside, who’s house, center • Expectations • Behavior guidelines • Food, guests, gifts • Documentation of problems • Scheduling issues
Professional Supervisors A important thing to know about professional supervised visitation in Washington State: There is NO: • Special licensing requirements • No regulation • No standards • No training requirements • No certification • No monitoring ANYONE can be a visitation supervisor!
Professional Supervisors, (cont…) Considerations when using a professional supervisor: • Domestic violence versus child welfare • Who are they supervising? • What do they document and why? • What are their security protocols ? • Do they force children?
Professional Supervisors, (cont…) • Do they report protection order violations? • Do they have DV-specific training? • What is the intake process? • Do they understand confidentiality? • Do they make decisions without consulting the social worker or adult victim?
Considerations For All Options • DV & Child safety planning is ongoing for all types of access and is ever-changing based on what’s happening right now • DV could be a factor in ANY case so best to err on the side of safety • Parents need support in helping their children in visiting their other parent
Crafting Visitation Agreements • What’s the relationship status? • Dating, cohabitating, married, separated, divorced, length of relationship • Confidential location? • Who else might be impacted? • Kids, extended family, friends, pets • Who else is involved? • Court, law enforcement, probation, health care providers, employers, school, daycare, etc…
Considerations for Social Workers • Stalking • Passing messages, tracking devices • Disclosures of confidential information • Location, new partners, legal actions • Threats / Intimidation • Visible and audible barriers, BEWARE of new partners and grandparents! • Manipulation • Scheduling, staff splitting, indirect threats
Preparing Parents • Outline and explain expectations, behavioral guidelines, and limitations • Explore scheduling options and prepare for problems • Ask about concerns regarding visitation • Answer questions • Ask about Food, Guests, & Gifts!!! • Document concerns (yours & theirs)
For Visit Supervisors • Provide copy of any protective orders • Explain primary referral reason and emphasize DV concerns • Outline expected safety protocols • Outline and explain expectations, behavioral guidelines, and limitations • Explore scheduling options and preparing for problems
Example • Describe what happened in the clip • What did the camera see? • It’s VERY difficult to separate out personal experience and perception from observed behaviors! • Remember role of supervisor is to provide safety
Documentation • What are we asking them to do? • Explain and review form and/or expectations regarding documentation • Descriptive NOT interpretive • Ongoing review and constructive feedback regarding documentation • ALWAYS document safety concerns!
AND Intervention! • What do interventions look like? • As non-intrusive as possible • Respectful, direct, concise, NO GUILTING • Be aware of physical location and stance • Impact of intervening • Follow up after intervention • With parent when calm, child if necessary • Debrief is important • Document concerning responses
Practice – What Would You Do? • Tom accidentally shows up for his visit while Joey is visiting with Nancy. • Tom brings a Birthday card to the visit for Joey to sign and give to Nancy at their next visit. The front of the card is a photo from the perspective of someone obviously about to go down the steep slope of a roller coaster with a preprinted greeting inside that says, “No telling what surprises your in for on your birthday!” • Tom brings a birthday gift for Joey. It’s a remote control boat. • Joey asks Nancy for the name of the place where she works again.
Working with the Court • (Disclaimer: This is my opinion!) The Court is more likely to consider restrictions on parenting if given examples (abduction, sexual assault, stalking, child abuse, manipulation, suicide/homicide threats, substance abuse, etc. ) of risks along with a reasonable plan to transition to less restrictive • Avoid specific time frames when possible – focus on behavior change
Our Responses • Looking through the “lens” of coercive control • What is the function of the behavior we’re witnessing? • What are the unique vulnerabilities that may be at play? • How might we be reinforcing battering?
Support • Safety First • Help non-abusive parent understand how specific behaviors and topics of conversation can compromise their safety • Collaborate - Who can help? • Know your community resources • Provide meaningful referrals • Keep learning about domestic violence • Consult with DV specialists
Let’s Try It Out! • Overall Goal of Visitation • Visit Plan – Recommendations • Visiting Plan • Parent’s participation • How plan will be helpful • Sibling visitation plan • Child’s Input • Parent(s) Input • Additional Comments
Remember… • Someone else’s safety and wellbeing could be at risk • Accountability does not have to be punitive, we can be respectful and direct about safety concerns and expectations • Acknowledge the challenges of changing core values or belief systems • Emphasize efforts to repair harm done by DV
Well, That’s Nice But… • What’s really going on? • Questions
Thanks for all you do for children and their families! Keep up the good work Tracee Parker [email protected] com 206 -351 -4939